In thinking over the past year, I find I can sum up a retrospective with the simple phrase: This too shall pass. In fact, it has practically become my mantra.
Like most parents, when I started to realize and eventually come to terms with Chee’s delays, everything became So Significant. At times, ‘delay’ actually meant ‘lacking altogether.’ I fretted and worried over every little odd behavior, every little thing she just didn’t ‘get.’
Would she ever be able to express her needs?
Would she eventually talk TO me or always just AT me?
At times, it seemed a distant dream that she might use the potty on her own, be able to write her own name, enjoy (or even tolerate) circle time. I wondered if I’d forever be denied parking in the garage.
I know all children with developmental delays and/or who are on the Spectrum progress at their own individual pace, but I have a hunch just about any parent can look back over the course of a year and realize that their child has been developing. Much of what was worried and fretted over has passed.
As I look back over this past year, I am reminded of just how much my mantra of This too shall pass has rung true.
Back in January I wrote that Chee was driving me nuts by obsessively opening and closing the DVD player. That little obsession has passed thankfully.
In February, Chee was not verbally answering WH questions. She could give the information if asked differently, but to just simply, verbally respond to a question … a no go. No concerns there anymore. She still struggles with answering Why questions a bit, but she’s working on it.
Remember that fear of the garage? Not an issue anymore. In fact, she’s so NOT afraid of the garage that she runs in there willy nilly any old time she feels like it. I’m kinda missing those days when the garage was Evil.
Chee no longer bans listening to music in the house. Finally, for whatever reason, we can all enjoy listening to CDs again. So long as that CD is set to ‘repeat’ on Bippidy Boppidy Boo, that is. Ess and I are exercising our veto power once in awhile, though. (We’re tough like that.)
In May she finally potty trained (just pee). In July, she regressed. In September it seemed to “click” again; and then, finally, in December, she stopped asking for a Pullup to poop. Eureka!
When school began, Chee didn’t want to go. She got over that, but decided she didn’t want to walk inside with a teacher, she wanted me to walk her in.
Overcame that hurdle and then she began wanting only certain people to walk her in (something I can’t control). And that too has passed and now she’ll walk in with anyone (although not always gladly).
In October I was annoyed at the girls love of screaming at the top of their lungs in the house. I worried that Chee’s sensory needs were all over the board. Fortunately, the screaming phase abated and (knock on wood) we haven’t seen too many sensory “issues” lately.
There are dozens more small things that I could include on this list.
Chee’s seeming disinterest in writing which thankfully has receded.
Her push and punch mode of dealing with Ess which seems to be (mostly) under wraps.
There are new things to fret over, to worry about. But history is showing me that I can relax, breathe a bit, because, just like most everything else … this too shall pass.

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January 5, 2009 at 9:19 pm
Tonggu Momma
It’s amazing to look back and see how far she has come. You go, Chee! And you, too, GF!
January 5, 2009 at 9:26 pm
kristen
I love this post and the reminder to keep things in perspective. I, too, have felt overwhelmed by certain behaviors and issues my son has, thinking they will be with us For. Ever. But, yes, they pass, they come and go and go some more. Replaced by something else or something smaller or sometimes even nothing.
Thanks for this!!
January 6, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Erin
Awesome post. Love the progress! It might be slow and a little more even than we’d like, but it happens. And when it does, we are that much thankful for it!
January 6, 2009 at 12:52 pm
therocchronicles
You’re right and I’ve been mega stressed out lately about some bad behaviors the Roc is displaying at school…sigh. I’m really hoping it will pass or I figure out what is causing it!
Go Chee!!
January 6, 2009 at 10:58 pm
Patty
Thanks. I needed to read this. You are so right. I need to keep track more of the things that are issues so that I can see when the pass. There are so many problems that have passed, but sometimes I forget about them, because I am so busy dealing with the new ones. But it is good to have this perspective, to be reminded that Danny is progressing, learning and changing. Thanks!
January 8, 2009 at 7:51 pm
leechbabe
You have made amazing progress this year. I’m inspired by all your hard work.
May 14, 2009 at 3:47 pm
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